Therapy

Therapy is a great way to start getting to the core reasons why you might suffer from premature ejaculation.  Therapy should be with a trained medical professional.  Medical doctors, or psychologists with training in sexual health are the best options for you.  Your sessions should be alone, and with your partner (if you have one).  Although this might be very hard for you, being able to communicate with your partner openly about the issue is a very powerful way to start overcoming your P.E.  Remember, the medical professional is trained to help you with this issue.  Not only will you discover reasons for your sexual anxiety, the therapist will also discuss techniques that can be performed during sex that can help you last longer.  Therapy is a very powerful way of dealing with premature ejaculation.

Medication
If you visit a doctor and you are looking for a prescription medication to help with your P.E., then you will often times be prescribed a certain class of drugs which are called SSRIs.  SSRIs are generally anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medications that increase a chemical that is produced in your body called serotonin.  Often times, men who suffer from premature ejaculation can have lower levels of serotonin in their bodies.  Since serotonin is directly linked with the ejaculatory response, increasing its levels can help delay orgasm in both men and women.  This was really discovered by mistake.  However, delayed orgasm is one of the side effects of SSRIs.  This is a positive side effect if you suffer from premature ejaculation.

Supplements

If you are one who does not like visiting a doctor’s office, and you do not want to take prescription medications for your premature ejaculation, there are natural supplements that can help with P.E. as well.  These natural supplements are acting in similar ways to prescription medications, however the ingredients are all natural, and you do not need a prescription to purchase them.  These supplements are gaining more and more credibility in the medical community as a very viable way to help delay orgasm.  You are finding more and more physicians using these alternative methods over traditional prescription medications because men are seeing great results with them.  Along with therapy, taking a supplement for premature ejaculation is one of the best ways to help put an end to the embarrassing issue.

Premature ejaculation can also be referred to as rapid ejaculation, early ejaculation, or premature climax.  The medical community has recognized several definitions over the years, but most now agree that premature ejaculation occurs when a man’s early ejaculation during sexual intercourse interferes with the emotional well-being of one or both partners.

By this definition, there is no specific time that a man “should” last during sexual intercourse.  For example, by this definition PE is not defined by climaxing within one or two minutes of vaginal penetration.  In order for premature ejaculation to occur, it must “interfere” with “one” or “both” partners’ emotional well-being.

If you are a male who ejaculates within 30 seconds of vaginal penetration, however, both you and your partner feel that you have a healthy, enjoyable sex life, then you do not suffer from PE.  However, if you are a man who lasts 15 minutes, but either you or your partner continually feel unsatisfied emotionally after intercourse, and this interferes with your emotional well being, then you may suffer from premature ejaculation.

The medical community agrees that it is less about the amount of time you last and more about emotional well-being for a man and his partner.

The Science of Ejaculation

When a man reaches climax during a sexual encounter he ejaculates.  The physical act of ejaculating involves two parts:  1.  Emission and 2.  Expulsion.

The emission phase is the first phase and it involves depositing seminal fluid into the posterior urethra.  In laymen’s terms, semen is moved into position before it shoots out of the penis.

The second phase is expulsion.  This involves the contractions that force the semen out of the man’s penis.

The important thing to understand about this process is that ejaculation is a reflex.  Once sufficient stimulation has been reached, then a man will ejaculate.  He cannot control it once it begins.  This is the same as when a doctor taps your knee during an examination to test your reflexes.  Your leg jerks up when he taps on your knee with his rubber hammer.  You cannot control it.

Ejaculation is a reflex that you cannot control.  So, if a man wants to last longer, then he must delay the reflex from happening, which he can do.

Just as your leg would not jerk if the doctor delayed from tapping on your knee; a man can last longer if he can delay the ejaculatory reflex from triggering.

Serotonin and Premature Ejaculation

There have been studies that suggest that there is a chemical in men’s brains that can lead to premature ejaculation when it consists in low levels.  This is a neurotransmitter called serotonin.

In the 1970’s there was a group of drugs invented called SSRI’s, or Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors.  They functioned by increasing the amounts of serotonin and were found to help people who suffered from depression.

An interesting side effect of SSRI’s was that many men began reporting to their physicians that they were lasting longer during sexual intercourse.  Over the years this led to more research in the medical community on serotonin and premature ejaculation.

Today, many physicians will treat men suffering from premature ejaculation with SSRI drugs, however, many men do not want to take these medications for the fear of side effects.

Alternative Remedies to Delay Ejaculation

There are now alternative, herbal remedies that are believed to work in a similar fashion as SSRI’s, except they are 100% natural and safe.  The herbal supplements are believed to increase serotonin naturally and allow men to last longer during sexual intercourse.  Similar to all cures for premature ejaculation, herbal supplements may work for some men and not others.  Everyone will respond differently.

So if you are suffering from premature ejaculation, what are your natural treatment options if you don’t want to take a prescription medication?

There are 4 most commonly used natural treatment options for P.E. They are:

1.    Natural Supplementation
2.    The Start and Stop Technique
3.    Masturbation
4.    Kegel Exercises

Natural Supplementation

Natural supplements can be a great way to help control premature ejaculation. A combination of vitamins and supplements can counteract premature ejaculation from a scientific standpoint which is the best way to approach the problem. P.E. is the result of low levels of a neurotransmitter in the brain called Serotonin. The proper levels of natural supplements can actually help to increase levels of Serotonin in the brain and ultimately delay ejaculation. This form of treatment proves to be highly effective for a lot of men and the great part is you don’t need a prescription, nor are you pumping prescription medications into your body.

The Start and Stop Technique

The start and stop technique is another way to help with premature ejaculation. In essence the man stops thrusting when he feels as though he is about to ejaculate and lets the urges subside. If a man is very sensitive he may actually withdraw completely and take a short break during intercourse to prevent from climaxing. While this technique can work for many men, it has two fundamental problems. For many men with severe P.E. they will ejaculate prior to complete insertion into the vagina or within seconds after insertion. This literally leaves no time to start or stop! The second issue is that this technique is not very enjoyable for either party. For the female, she is continuously interrupted during love making and the male is continuously worrying about stopping soon enough.

Masturbation

Another natural technique to fight premature ejaculation that is effective for many men is masturbation. Masturbation can be used in two ways to help with P.E. First, training your ejaculatory reflex can be accomplished practicing your staying power during masturbation. With this technique a man masturbates until he is about to climax and then stops. By repeating this process some men can train themselves to last longer. The second way that masturbation can be used to help premature ejaculation is by masturbating prior to sex. It is a fact that it is harder for a man to maintain an erection and to ejaculate again immediately after having done so. By ejaculating shortly before intercourse many men can last much longer the second time.

Kegel Exercises

The last technique that works for many men to naturally prevent P.E. is something called Kegel Exercises. These exercises are designed to help strengthen pelvic muscles which can directly influence a man’s staying power. The good thing about kegel exercises is that they are free and they can be practiced in the privacy of your own home. There are many products available that will teach you exactly how to perform these exercises and will help with your ability to last longer in bed.

If you are suffering from premature ejaculation the main point is that you get some help for it. You don’t have to be ashamed about your problem as many men suffer from the same issue. Staying quiet about your problem and not seeking help will destroy you emotionally and will way heavily on your relationships. Many men have found the most success by implementing two or more of these techniques. Natural supplementation works well with any of the other options for natural treatment. Men who use natural supplements and incorporate other techniques into curing their problem tend to see the best results.

The PC muscle is found in men and women, and is involved in urine control and flow.  It’s also responsible for allowing men to move their penis up and down when erect. When the PC muscle is well developed, it can greatly enhance the sexual experience.

You can find your PC muscle by actually feeling it working. The next time you go to the bathroom, try and stop your urination in mid stream.  The muscle that is controlling that action is the PC muscle.  This simple test will also determine how much control you have over it.

When you flex your erect penis up and down, you can feel the muscle squeeze at the base of the penis.  This too involves your PC muscle.

Since the PC muscle is also involved in ejaculatory control, it’s very important for you to strengthen that muscle, and in turn stop premature ejaculation.

One of the greatest things about PC muscle exercises is the fact that they can be done virtually anywhere.  You can be at home, or in a park.  Naked or clothed.  However, it is recommended to be as comfortable as possible.  If you can do the exercises alone, and in your bedroom or bathroom, that would be best.

The following exercise is a great way to strengthen your PC muscle, and last longer during sex.  It is called a kegel exercise because it is named after the doctor who invented them, Dr. Arnold Kegel.

PC Muscle Exercise

Quickly flex the muscle by squeezing and releasing it. You’re not actually squeezing it with your hands. The squeezing is the contraction of the muscle.  Squeeze and hold for 3-5 seconds and then release.  Rest for 3-5 seconds and then repeat the process.  This process should be done 20 times a day, 3-4 days a week.

However, you should begin at a level where you feel most comfortable.  If you feel like you can squeeze and hold longer, do so.  There should be progression here as well.  After doing the above exercise for a week or so, start doing it 40 times a day for 6-7 seconds, 3-4 days a week.  From there, try doing it 60 times a day for 7-8 seconds, 3-4 days a week.

You should begin to notice improvements in the strength of your PC muscle within a couple weeks.  Because you are strengthening this muscle, you should also begin to see improvement in your P.E. as well.

You will want to focus on your breathing during these exercises too.  Try and keep a consistent, rhythmic breathing pattern.  When you’re doing this exercise, exhale when you flex your PC and inhale when you relax it.  This will make the workout more effective, and will translate into better lasting ability during sex.

Exercises to prevent premature ejaculation, along with natural supplementation, is a great way to help put an end to your P.E. problem.  It’s best to use some sort of combination method when dealing with premature ejaculation treatment.  Although each body responds differently, this method of treating the problem seems to be very effective for a high percentage of men.